In it to hit it?

So you start talking to someone new or old. You do the norm or texting and calling. Now it’s been a week. While you contemplate over the events of the week, you think to yourself if this guy is just trying to hit it and quit it. Some signs are not so evident. However, some signs are smack you in the face "Hi I'm here" and *BOOM* type evident. So, let me talk about what I think are just a few signs that he is trying to put that smack down put the smack down *Jeezy voice*

1. He doesn’t offer to take you out on a date in public. It’s not that he’s not able to do it or he‘s too busy. It’s because he just doesn’t want to. Why? He probably doesn’t want to be seen because he doesn’t want people to think you are together when he only has intentions of being cut buddies. **Please note that just because he does take you out doesn’t exclude him from just wanting to tap that ass. Some men have the resources to wine and dine their potential scattered ass. Some men don’t have the resources but if it only take one date to get the booty then they will do it to.

2. He’s not interested in getting to know you as a person. All the “getting to know each other” questions lead to sex. It’s amazing how you start off talking about what’s for lunch today and 10 minutes later he’s asking you what’s your favorite position. Hello! You’ve known this man for a week. He probably doesn’t know your last name yet, nor has he asked, but that’s because he doesn’t care to know your last name or anything else about you for that matter.


3. He always want to hang out late night. He always wants to make it a redbox night but doesn't hit you up until 10 to come over and watch the movie. You have to get ready to go over there so you know you won’t be at his house a minute before 11. He gets 2 movies which is about 3 hours of run time. He knows you will stay through the first movie because that‘s what you came for. The first movie ends slightly after midnight. He thinks if you are willing to stay for the second movie, you are willing to stay the night because it will be so late. So, if you are willing to stay the night, then you are willing to give up the ass in his eyes. It’s a bait and trap move. Clever I must say for those of you that use this.

4. He tries you and then becomes inconsistent with the phone calls and texts when you don‘t give it up. This is because he didn’t get what he intended to get. I can guarantee he probably hit you with the “These weren‘t my intentions” right after you didn‘t give it up too. Red Flag. Off top, no one asked for an explanation but the fact that he felt he had to give one should make you a bit leery. Second, if that wasn’t all he wanted then why did he stop texting and calling like he used to. Nothing changed right?

5. He pops up out of no where showing interest in you RIGHT after you’ve stopped talking to one of his friends. Cmon man! This is classic and sometimes it works too. He hits you with the “Man I’ve been feeling you but I didn’t want to say anything because you were talking to my homeboy at the time” and you swoon. He’s just waiting to play you because you are looking for the rebound guy and he’s willing to be that just for the sex. And you never know. It was a setup from the beginning between him and the homeboy from the beginning. Yes there are some grimy males out there.

At the end of the day, know what you want out of the situation. If you don’t want to just be cut buddies then don’t give it up so soon. If that’s all you want, then by all means get it in. Just know that after you make one decision or the other, it is damn near irreversible but as always... every situation is subject to interpretation. =)