Thou shalt not...

After listening to my friend complain about her male friend and their "ship" (It isn't a relationship soooo to me it's a "ship"), I thought it would only be appropriate to blog a little about what thou shalt not do when dealing with the opposite sex and a "ship".

1. Thou shalt not assume ANYTHING.

As simple as that sounds, it seems to be a hard concept to grasp. The age old saying still applies "ASSUME. It makes and ass out of you and me". You need to know what you are to him/her and where you are at with him/her. It seems like a lot of people just assume that "oh we had sex so we must be talking" or "oh we went out on a date so we must be dating", but you never know how he or she views the situation you are in until you ASK. This is how you end up looking like a fool... probably with your pants on the ground.


2. Thou shalt not lay claim.

I must say. I've been guilty of this one but that still doesn't make it right. So let me go ham on my own head. Claiming something that isn't yours is like false advertisement and it makes you look like a fraud. If you are not in a relationship with someone, he/she is not yours. Hold on. Let me turn my caps lock on loud. IF YOU ARE NOT IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE, HE/SHE IS NOT YOURS. That person is free to do whatever, whenever, and with whomever. It's really funny how we will always be quick to lay claim on someone to everyone else but forget to let them in on the not-so-much-of-a-secret secret. I don't care if you've been around for the past 3 years that doesn't give you anymore claim the the person they met at the club a week ago and talk to on the phone everyday the same way they used to do you at first. To me, claim equals a title and a title equals a relationship thus claim equals a relationship.

3. Thou shalt not give more than you are getting.

Call me selfish but I believe this should be a 50-50 "ship" with 5% room for error. Why are you always calling? Why are they never answering when you call? Why are you always texting? Why are they texting you back 2 hours later? Why do you go out of your way to make time for them? Why do they never have time for you when you have time for them? Why are you running this "ship" by yourself? That doesn't sound like much of a "ship" at all huh? And that's because it's probably not. As I have learned the hard way, people make time what time want to make time for. If he/she wants to see you or call you or take you out, then they will do it. Period.

4. Thou shalt not waste time.

You spend all this time with someone you know does not have long term potential. Why? Holding on to the one that you know is not for you and is only there for extra activities may have you missing out on the one that really is. There comes a time where, for those of you who one day want to be married one day, you think to yourself "Playtime is over." When you come to that point, you realize there are a lot of people of the opposite sex who are not at that point yet. So, if you go after that same type every time, chances it won't turn out in your favor. Time is precious especially when it is yours. Don't waste it on someone who isn't deserving.

These are just my thoughts cut short this morning and they are subject to interpretation =)